This is fascinating and frustrating all at the same time.
Enjoy the hell out of being you.
Being a twenty-five-year-old living at home wasn’t something I saw for myself when I was younger. Like a lot of people my age, I figured I’d go to college, get a job, and move out. The recession changed that. However, what would have really shocked my senior-in-high-school-self would be that I don’t mind living at home. Like, I really don’t mind. It doesn’t mean I plan on being here in another five years, but it doesn’t mean I’m counting the days until I move out either. Half my friends are apartment living while the other half are in my “conundrum.” Living at home can seem…defeating. More and more millennials are finding themselves in this very situation. Living at home means you can’t afford to rent or own and it’s more affordable to live with family and save money, which can feel like you’ve somehow “failed.” I can’t speak for everyone, but I don’t feel as if I’ve failed at all (in fact I feel more like a pragmatist in a system that has failed me).
With few if any job openings, I could move out and get an apartment and spend my meager earnings on rent (on top of student debt, utilities, insurance, gas, food, etc.) or I could save rent money and invest it. Honestly though, that’s not why I don’t have an issue with moving out. Yes, it’s pragmatic, but that’s not the real reason I don’t care.
To be honest, I have a unique perspective because of tragedy. My dad started suffering from health problems during my college years. I had gone to UC Santa Barbara my freshmen year and transferred home by the time I was a sophomore. The very next year my dad’s health problems began. Up until that point, I had always second guessed by decision to transfer home. It made me feel like if I did I might get stuck. My dad died on December 26, 2014. I would have never thought I would only get twenty-four years on earth with the father I loved so much and while I am still coming to grips with his death and my grief (which will be lifelong), I am so thankful I got 24 years and that I was home–the only place I would want to be.
To me, living at home means getting more one-on-one time with my mom; getting to run a few errands for her, cook dinner nearly every night with her, hear her laugh, see her smile. I miss my dad’s laugh the most; thinking about it makes me smile and causes my heart to ache simultaneously. None of us are guaranteed time. None of us know when we’ll die–or worse, when our loved ones will. People tell you this all the time, but it doesn’t register until someone you love has died. It’s ironic, the older I get the more I find myself understanding my parents. They always told me this would happen. I want to soak up this special time. In the blink of an eye, I’ll have moved out, gotten married, had kids, and it’ll be over–where it’s just the two of us, coexisting in love. I’m excited for the future, but I’m forever savoring the present.
Note: I realize living at home is also a luxury. Many people simply don’t have a choice and if they do it isn’t a free choice or is very well nonexistent for various reasons. I hate to exclude and I want to make sure that I don’t; this is just my own take.
Start by doing what’s necessary; then do what’s possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible.
I have this huge thing for green beans. I’ve liked them ever since I was a kid. I wouldn’t touch a green vegetable with a ten foot pole unless it was a green bean. As an adult, my love for green beans hasn’t died down one bit. I still love ’em. This is one of my favorite, easy-beansy recipes for the green manna.
Easy Baked Green Beans
- Green beans
- Extra virgin olive oil
- Lite soy sauce
- Balsamic vinegar
Now, this is all you need to know. No matter how many green beans you have, you just add all the ingredients listed above. Taste test the marinade (some prefer more salt, others less, etc.). I like to make my green beans fresh, so I make them in one-person servings. That means two handfuls of green beans, a three second drizzle of olive oil, a heap of pepper (I’m partial to it, you could go without), four splashes of lite soy sauce, and two splashes of balsamic vinegar. If you’re making a larger serving, just count up the folks about to eat this delicious creation and multiply. Make sure you wash your green beans and hack off those end bits (I like to get a bunch in one hand and cut them with scissors to make the process faster). Next thing, put some aluminum foil on a baking pan and pop them in the oven at 450 degrees for no more than 15 minutes. Also, if possible, invest in a convection oven! I swear, waiting on the mother oven to heat up for 10 minutes just to make some baked vegetables is one way to not eat as many vegetables. Convection ovens are your friend. Enjoy!
Perseverance is failing 19 times and succeeding the 20th.
I have ambitious goals for 2016. In this post, I’ll be talking about each one briefly, but they’ll be covered in further depth in later posts. 🙂 They aren’t so much New Year’s Resolutions, which always seem to be temporary, as they are lifestyle changes. Each of my goals will challenge me to live my life with intention and continue to grow as a person.
Practice Hal Elrod’s The Miracle Morning every day. I have never, ever been a morning person. This book has given me the motivation to embrace mornings and I would recommend it to anyone whether you’re an early bird or a night owl.
Cut out added sugar from my diet. I plan to accomplish this goal by being gentle with myself. If I slip up, I slip up, and everything’s going to be alright, chill. I also plan on allowing myself one cheat day a month to treat myself as well as letting myself enjoy added sugar on special occasions. This goal has been completely inspired by Naomi Davis of Love Taza. I’m very excited to see her future posts on this topic.
Exercise 3-4 times a week. I have a simple, easy method I started last year to track the days I exercise that I’ve been continuing to use this year and hopefully I can get to a 4-times-a-week average by 2017.
Establish set skin care routine. I want to take better care of my skin. I’ve read that skin starts to lose its oil production and dry out in your 20s. I’ve found this to be very true! Anti-aging begins now.
Start investing. Finance is a huge interest of mine, which, granted, is a little strange considering I was a history major. I took a Finance 101 class in college and became enamored. I always say if I didn’t want to work in the field of history, I would have been a computer engineer or financial adviser. Don’t get me started on the beauty of compounding.
Do things that scare me. I know in my heart of hearts that fear is an illusion. I also know that it can stop us from doing things we can benefit from. I’m not about that. I want to do things this year that make me anxious and fearful and master fear to use as a tool and not a hindrance. I got this idea from Jess Lively of The Lively Show, one of my modern-day gurus and host of one of my favorite podcasts ever. I am so, so, so excited to see how she tackles her own fears in the coming year.
Record one second every day and compile it into a short video using the 1 Second Everyday app. I cannot wait to see how it turns out! I’m thinking this would be so amazing to do every year, but we’ll see if I can get through this year first.
These are my seven goals for 2016. Let’s get started!